9 Steps to Dealing With Negativity

“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it.”

You may be in daily interaction with negative people, be they friends, family members, a romantic partner or colleague. You love them, you care about them, you can’t just cut them out of your life, but they are negative and their negativity is eating away at you. What can you do?

The best way of dealing with life’s challenges is to take a good look at ourselves and take responsibility for what we think, feel and do. Never give your power away by blaming others for what you have or don’t have, what you feel or don’t feel. Once you do so, you’ll become a victim of circumstance, and instead of using your time and energy to beat life’s challenges, you’ll sink to a dark and miserable place.

Here are 9 smart, positive and effective ways of dealing with the negativity of the people close to you:


  1. Give up the need to complain.

Make sure you are taking responsibility for your feelings and mood. Don’t go complaining that other people’s negativity is affecting you because it will only create more negativity. Take responsibility for your thoughts and feelings and see what you can do to make yourselves feel better and change the existing situation. “Whoever has limited knowledge of human nature and seeks happiness by changing everything but his own attitude, will waste his life in futile efforts.” ~Samuel Johnson.

  1. Similarity Attracts

Good brings about good, bad brings about bad, and if we want to or not, we pull into our lives events, situations and people that reflect our internal state. Ask yourselves: “How am I feeling? Am I happy, excited, thankful and calm? Or am I anxious, frustrated and judgmental?” You may find that you yourselves radiate misery to the environment and that part of the negative energy surrounding you is in fact a reflection of yourselves.

  1. Don’t believe everything you think.

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